Where it stands

When Maisy first came home from the hospital we had a lot to overcome. A six-month hospitalization leads to many anxieties and while I had tried very hard to avoid a fear of strangers it was inevitable.

When she first came home she had sensory fears such as carpet, anything pointy or spiky, and many other various textures especially if they were wet or cold. I had to place her on a blanket if she wasn't in her crib and she didn't tolerate touching most things except with her hands. Through work and exposure we were able to overcome so many of these issues within the first year.
But strangers were a different matter entirely. Although Maisy was just an infant in the hospital, I had required anyone who came to see her introduce themselves and explain what they would be doing before they touch her. I felt it was respectful. But she still had no control in the situation or ability to say, "No you won't be doing that today, thank you." When she came home an unfamiliar person could send her heart rate sky rocketing. And this has taken me years to overcome. With my other children I would always make them acknowledge visitors and greet people who came over, with Maisy it was all I could do to keep her in the same room without crying. But we have gotten beyond that and she will even go to others willingly and some days likes a new face better than mom.
So now we are set back a bit. She is still okay with adults, but she is crying at the approach of other kids. And I don't blame her. I did not send her to school after the second incident last week and I hesitate to send her tomorrow. Today, as I was telling someone about her week, she looked at him and said, "MEE MEE." I said, "Mean, Maisy? Was he mean to you?" And she nodded and again said, "Mee Mee." She's right, he is mean and she shouldn't have to be treated that way.

I will be contacting whoever is over the preschool as soon as I can to find out how to fix the problem. And at this point I think the only fix is to put her in a different class. I cannot and will not let my sweet girl, that I have worked so hard for, be hurt anymore.